7 Sins of Working in an office

Seven Sins When Working In An Office

Being a full time worker, I tend the find that the majority of my time is spent in an office. The office is almost like your home away from home, you make your desk your own and the people you work with become like a second family. There are many good things about working in an office, including the feeling of achievement when you all hit your targets for the month or the sense of belonging on a work’s night out.

But there are a number of cardinal sins that can make you… well, let’s say not too popular… if you do them on a semi regular to regular basis.

1. Eating smelly food.

Whether it’s smelly fish, cheese or even freshly baked bread (if that’s what you like to take to work!) you can guarantee someone in the office will dislike it. I made the mistake of taking in Broccoli and Stilton soup to work the other day and only realised once I had heated it up just how stinky it really was. It was nice though…

So make sure you stick to plain, boring foods to take in to work. That, or, make sure you have a private room that no one will mind you stinking out for a while.

2. Taking in cakes in January, when everyone is on a diet.

It’s funny how a number of these sins are based around food – I’ve come to the conclusion that, as good as food is, it has the potential to bring out the worst in people and no where is that more prevalent than in the office.

Think about it though, how would you feel if you are on a strict “no eating junk” diet and someone brings in a plate of home-made, chocolate coated, calorie loaded cupcakes and shoves them under your nose? If you are anything like me, you have the self control of a magpie (I can’t think of something that has bad self control so this is the best you’re going to get) and cave at the first sign of pressure. And that’s it… there goes your diet and all of the planned weight loss with it.

3. Stealing your neighbour’s favourite pen… and not giving it back.

People can be very possessive over their stationery. Don’t mess with another person’s stationery.

Just don’t.

4. Making a cup of tea for yourself and no one else.

Another food and drink related one. If you are making yourself a cup of tea then it is common courtesy to ask others if they want one as well. Of course, this does depend on the size of your team and how your company deals with this kind of thing.

I mean, if you have a team of 30+ you’re not going to expect one person to make tea for everyone. But in smaller teams it seems to be the trend that whoever goes for tea, offers it round to the rest of the team and then regrets it afterwards.

Either that or do what I do and never make tea for anyone.. even yourself.

5. Talking to someone whilst they’re on the phone.

Guilty as charged. In my defense, it is very difficult to tell when someone is on the phone using a headset. You look at them for a second or two and they aren’t talking, so you assume they are free. You start talking and then find out that, in actuality, they are listening to someone give a rather long and important monologue on the other end of the phone that you are now interrupting.

I’ve done this so many times now that I’ve started asking people “Are you on the phone?” before saying anything else. They don’t answer, they don’t get talked to – simple as that.

6. Tapping your feet or humming in a quiet office where everyone is trying to concentrate.

Picture this. You’re sat in the office on a really important deadline day and everyone is working really hard to get things finished on time. The office has been pretty much silent for the past half an hour and you are feeling bored and a touch awkward. You, subconsciously, start humming a song whilst working to keep yourself entertained and start getting in to it a little.

Next thing you know, you look up and everyone is staring at you and has been for the past minute. Humming is something that is so easily picked up and carried out absentmindedly, and yet seems to be one of the most annoying things possible to someone who is trying to concentrate.

My advice, find a quiet private office, set yourself up there and sing to your hearts content. At least you can’t annoy anyone there.

7. Typing on your keyboard really loudly.

There are two different types of keyboard typers. The first is the group of people that touch type, lightly pressing the keys on their keyboard and swiftly moving on to the next – typing up full documents within minutes and never making a significant amount of sound. The second group of people are people that feel the need to hit their keyboard as hard as possible when typing (me included) getting a little overexcited as they go and making it sound like there are actually 50 people typing in complete synchronisation all in the same corner of the room.

The problem is that the sound of a keyboard tapping can be an incredibly invasive sound – particularly if you are using a mechanical keyboard. In the past, I have been known to tap away at my computer at night and wake the kids up with the noise I am making.

My top tip for all of my fellow noisy typers out there – test your keyboard out in the shop before you buy it. Aim to buy one that is a soft touch type keyboard and that doesn’t make too much noise when you press the buttons. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.

So those are some of the ultimate sins that I have experience (and occasionally been guilty of) whilst working in an office.

What annoys you most when working in an office? Is there something that you are guilty of that you know annoys everyone else?

 

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What is Home?

What does home mean to you?

It is, traditionally, the house that you live in. In fact, the Oxford dictionary defines a home as “The place where one lives permanently, especially as a member of a family or household”.

Yet over the past few years I have come to realise that there is more to home than just a place, than just bricks and mortar. Home can mean many different things, depending on the person who describes it.

So I thought I would share what home meant to me, in the hope of spreading a little warmth and also giving you a bit of an insight into my life!

To me, home is…

  • My husband’s desk being set up in the living room so he is always part of the moment, rather than being tucked away in a separate room;
  • The mess of kiddies toys after a hard day of playing and generally causing chaos;
  • Cups of tea in specially bought “I Am Groot” mugs that no one else is allowed to use;
  • Knowing which floorboards are the creaky ones when you sneak around upstairs, trying not to wake the kids;
  • Having a mixture of both homely bits and bits of wire etc scattered throughout the house, each trying to balance the other out;
  • Slippers, cosy hoodies and crazy pyjama bottoms that you wouldn’t be seen dead in outside the house but are quite happy to spend the day lounging in on the sofa;
  • The white noise of baby monitors on the cupboard side;
  • Dishes piled up by the side of the sink waiting to be done tomorrow because you just can’t face them tonight;
  • The floor being covered in a range of different cushions because the kids have decided that cushions are perfect for bouncing on;
  • Finding lego with your feet when you get up first thing in the morning;

And finally…

  • Anywhere that my husband and my children are – if they’re in the car, my home is there. If they’re on holiday in Wales, my home is there. They are my home and home isn’t home without them. (That’s a lot of homes, I know!)

So what does the word home mean to you?

Do you have something that makes your home “home” that things just are not the same without?

Let me know in the comments below!

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The Working Mum of a Schoolgirl

I am a full time working mum.

Since my daughter was 18 months old, I have been working full time hours in a career that I thoroughly enjoy whilst my husband stays at home and looks after the kiddiwinks (yes I call them that!). Although it has meant that I have missed out on certain milestones – particularly since having my baby boy – it is what is best for our family financially and we are all happy with the choice we made.

However, a certain milestone has been coming up that has hit home recently.

My daughter is about to start at nursery school.

She is about to go in to the big wide world of school and start learning and making new friends and generally becoming a little girl, rather than a toddler. She is going to (eventually) have homework to do and learn about the world whilst, undoubtedly, causing all sorts of chaos at the same time.

I don’t know about you but, when I imagine myself as a mum (please excuse any stereotyping or general sweeping statements in the next few sentences), I imagine myself walking my children to school, dropping them off at the gates and waving them off for the day. I imagine meeting other parents and making small talk with them, making new friends with some and avoiding others like a rash. I imagine going along to plays and parents evenings, maybe even the PTA and generally being a part of their school life.

Now that I am working full time, I don’t see how that could happen.

I will not be there to drop them off when school begins or finishes. I will not be around for any school plays, unless they are later than 6pm, and I will not have chance to meet other parents and play school yard drama with them. I will definitely not have the time to dedicate to the PTA and the kids will probably have done any homework by the time I get home.

Now I am fully aware that, although this is what I think of when I think of being a parent, it is most likely a romantic notion. In fact, there are lots of other parents out there that don’t get to go to these things due to their commitments, and you don’t see them moaning about it on the internet. But this is my blog and I will moan about it if I want to, dammit!

I think this is just one of those things that I will have to come to terms with over time as part of being a parent, and make sure that I spend some quality time with my kids during the times that I can. After all, even if I had been around to walk them to school or be more involved, eventually I would just be embarrassing old mum who they wouldn’t be seen dead walking to school with – especially after she gave them a rather rude awakening that morning (can anyone say payback?).

If there are any parents out there who worked full time whilst their children were very young or just starting school – how did you find it? Did you miss out on much, or did it work well for you? Please let me know in the comments below – I would love to get some other points of view and experiences.

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A New Year – A New Start

Welcome to 2018 and welcome to the new Frills & Doodads blog!

I am Em, a serial blogger who has started more blogs than she can count on one hand and is never happy with the content she publishes. Having had a break from blogging for a few months (last attempt was a family related blog having two small children of my own and one stepchild) the New Year brought me a fresh hankering for an area on the internet to call my own.

And so here is the Frills and Doodads blog! A blog about everything and nothing, bits and bobs, oodles and doodles and basically anything I feel like writing about. I am hoping to keep with this one, keep it growing and publishing content on a (semi) regular basis. I want it to be an extension of me, to keep a record of life’s goings ons as well as share the things that I love most.

As well as a blog there are several other new things that I have decided to instigate in 2018. These are my New Year’s resolutions. You know, those things that you set on the 30th December and then fail at miserably by the 7th January? Admittedly, I am not usually one for making New Year’s resolutions – being fully aware that my willpower is an absolute minimum and I tend to cave in to temptation at the first hurdle. However, this (last) year there have been a few things that I have wanted to improve on so I decided the New Year would be the perfect time to start.

So here they are:

 

Look after myself more.

With two young children, it is very difficult to find time to pamper yourself and take time to relax and unwind. However, the kids are getting older now and a little more independent (as independent as a three year old and a one year old can be!) so I would like to introduce a little more self care this year. Take the time, when I have it, to have a long bubble bath, do my nails, dye my hair or even just veg out in front of the TV and relax. I would like to find a hobby that is mine (ahem.. the blog!) and have something that I enjoy and look forward to doing on my time off.

I also want to eat a little healthier and stop the snacking over the next year, with the target of dropping down to my pre one year old wait. I know, I know – this is an age old one but, having had a frankly amazing metabolism when I was younger, I need to get used to the fact that I cannot just eat what I want, when I want anymore.

 

Spend some quality time with loved ones.

Life has been busy lately, especially with the introduction of two little ones and returning to full time work, and this has resulted in some people not getting as much attention and time as I would have liked. This year I want to concentrate on spending some quality time with my husband and the kids, with the rest of my family and with friends. Quality time that does not include my phone or computer or any kind of browsing device so that my attention is on them alone. I want the most important people in my life to feel loved and appreciated, and that cannot be done if I am on my phone all the time.

 

Appreciate what I have.

I love gadgets… and DVDs… and makeup… and lots of other things that I am not going to list now, and I have noticed that I have a tendency to want more and more things that I don’t necessarily need. This year I want to appreciate what I have, remember how lucky I am and make sure I get the full use out of the each item. I am extremely lucky in the situation I am in, and don’t want to take that for granted or lose touch of that fact.

 

So those are my three New Year’s resolutions for 2018. I am hoping that I manage to make them work for me and see them through the entire year and onwards. Each of these is important to me, and I feel will help give me and my family a better quality of life than the one I already have.

Have you set any New Year’s resolutions? If so, let me know in the comments below!